The state of contentment

I was lying in bed the other night and thought outloud, "I've never been so content in life as I am right now." I smiled in the dark when G paused for a moment and said "me too". It got me thinking about the true definition of contentment. Out of curiosity, I googled it and wasn't really too surprised at what came up.

Lots of quotes from famous people...

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.” - Cicero

“Happiness is self-contentedness.” - Aristotle

"Contentment is natural wealth, luxury is artificial poverty.” - Socrates

And numerous discussions on the effects of finances, relationships, jobs, kids, and social situations and how they are all intertwined with happiness and contentment with life.

I also found an interesting article I thought I would share from here. You can read the entire article by clicking on the link. Here are some highlights that hit home for me personally.

"Count your blessings. When you find yourself unhappy with something, or with what you don’t have, take a moment to count all the good things in your life. And I would bet there are many. It puts the focus on what you do have rather than what you don’t.

Stop, and remind yourself. When you find yourself unhappy with someone, or trying to change them, stop yourself. Take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you should try to be happy with that person for who he/she is. Take a moment to think about the good things about that person, the reasons you love that person. Then accept their faults as part of their entire package.

Stop, and consider why you want something. When you feel the urge to buy something, think about whether it’s a need or a want. If it’s a want, take a pause. It’s good to wait 30 days — keep a 30-day list … when you want something, put it on the list with the date, and if you still want it in 30 days, you can buy it). Consider why you want something. Are you not content with what you already have? Why not?

Take time to appreciate your life! I like to reflect on my life, and all the good things in it, on a regular basis. I do this when I run, or when I watch the sunset or sunrise, or when I’m out in nature. Another great method is a morning gratitude session — think of all the things and people you’re thankful for, and thank them silently.

Show people you appreciate them. It’s good to appreciate people, but it’s even better to show them. Give them a hug, smile, spend time with them, thank them out loud, thank them publicly.

Breathe, and smile. Once again, advice from one of my favorite monks, but it works in this context. Sometimes when we take the time to breathe, and smile, it can change our outlook on life.

Learn to enjoy the simple things. Instead of wanting to buy expensive things, and spend money on doing things like eating out or entertainment, learn to enjoy stuff that’s free. Conversations and walks with other people. Spending time outdoors. Watching a DVD or playing board games. Going to the beach. Playing sports. Running. These things don’t cost much, and they are awesome. "

You know what I notice the most about the above listing? They all include an action... Count, Remind, Stop, Consider, Take Time, Appreciate, Breathe, Smile, Enjoy, Learn. And the action is on the individual. Others can't do it for you... it's up to you.

So catching up on my Thankful 30... I am thankful for

• 10 - Being content in life
• 11 - The power of Google!
• 12 - Being able to stay home and take care of my sick little girl (again!)
  
  

Kelley Creek Walking Trail

My Thankful 30: Day 9

This kids and I have been spending some fun time at the walking trail in town before the snow chases us away for the winter. Since I've been reflecting on things to be thankful for this month, the trail certainly comes to mind. It is so nice to go for a run or a bike ride without worrying about traffic or uneven pavement, especially when I have the kids with me. The trail also features specialized outdoor exercise equipment along the way so you can stop and do all sorts of exercises and workouts.

Demonstrating a piece of exercise equipment...

And taking a break at the park...

It doesn't get much better than that!!!

Thankful 30: Day 7&8 - the "list"

We have so many things to be thankful for... I don't know how to pick just one. So here is a random list of thoughts that popped into my head this weekend:

my sweet husband, pumkin pie, my new bike, Aunt Suzi, Lexi enjoying her new doggie bed, my best friend B, watching the kids make a big pen for the rabit so he can hop and play, a freezer full of food, children's church for my kids, Vanilla Spice Chai, running 3 miles, my sister-in-law, our neighbors, mashed potatoes and creamed corn, my washing machine, and the kids giggling together....

just to name a FEW!

Thankful 30: Day 6 - My big brother

Today it's my brother's birthday so I was thinking about him and how much fun we used to have. Growing up, we were always great friends. It seems like we seldom fought (although my parents might have another version). I remember people sometimes mistaking us for a couple because "there is no way two siblings could get along as well as you two do!". He always drove me to school before I was old enough to drive and he was my biggest fan at many events. We played in the dirt, practiced basketbal for hours on end, did all our 4-H stuff together, rode motorbikes and snowmobiles, and of course chopped wood. Time, distance, and busy lives has allowed us to drift apart over the years but deep down I know that rare connection is still there. So today... I'm thankful for having the best big brother a little girl could ask for!

Thankful 30: Day 5 - Bar stools!

Today I am thankful for my new bar stools, the tools to put them together, and my helper that made the job so fun! It has totally changed the atmosphere of the kitchen as I now have a little audience to chat with while I prepare meals. They like to pretend they are watching a cooking show and I like to take a lot of "commercial breaks!"

Thankful 30: days 1-4

I hate to be a copy cat but I've been seeing a lot of posts about November being a time to reflect on the things we have to be thankful for. I thought I would take up the challenge to both a) increase the frequency of posts on my blog and b) think of something to be thankful for each and every day. Even if you don't have a blog, I challenge you to do the same. It seems like it should be easy but we sometimes take for granted all that we have been blessed with on a daily basis. The first days are easy, but what about the end of the month? I find these exercises both reflective and inspirational, but most of all they are good at reminding me of what really matters. Why stress over dirty dishes and laundry? There are games to be played and memories to be made!

S0 today, I'm catching up....

Day 1 - I am thankful for my family. We have been so blessed with health and happiness both in our little family of four as well as our extended family of parents and siblings on both sides. As I hear of tragic accidents, illness, and broken families all around us, I am reminded just how lucky we are!

Day 2 - I am thankful for our jobs. We have been blessed with a great place to work, a kind and generous boss, the flexibility to work around our family's hectic schedule when necessary, and the financial stability to provide all the blessings we enjoy on a daily basis!

Day 3 - I am thankful for living in rural America. We may feel isolated from the rest of the world at times, but we enjoy the safety, security, and beauty of wide open spaces every day. Rural living provides an opportunity to teach our kids about ethics, an appreciation for hard work, an ability to be creative and experience nature daily, and the sometimes hard lessons about life and death. They are grounded in their roots and they will have the foundation to someday be successful and give back in their own way.

Day 4 - I am thankful that our house remodel project is nearly complete. Mainly because of reasons 1 thru 3 above, we have been able to withstand the last year or so of destruction, construction, and all out transformation. We are now living in a house that we will strive to make a home. I have learned in this long process that it's not the square footage or the ammenities that make a house a home. Rather, it's the little things like the piles of toys and games around the house, the mud on the floor after a hard day of working with the livestock, or the piles of dirty laundry we create that remind me that we are the luckiest people in the world!

And now... I'm off to play with the kids!

The Indian and the Hunter ride again...

As our adventures in the horse club continue, we had the opportunity to participate in the annual Halloween Horse Show at the fairgrounds this year. It's more of a fun day for the kids and the proceeds go toward a fundraising event that the kids choose.

Being our first year, we weren't sure what to expect, other than a fun day. Let's just say it exceeded our expectations. The kids had a great time, both sets of grandparents, one Aunt & Uncle, and a couple of neighbors all came to support our kids. I think we collectively made up about 40% of the audience but everybody had a good time.

They did a pumpkin race, the hula hoop lead back race, a ribbon race, the keyhole race, and of course the costume contest. There are some pretty creative people out there and some VERY tolerant horses! Here's a kid who came as "spider man". Behind him is a "Southern Bride". Her "bridesmaid" came in an a pony right behind her!

We turned our bay horse into an Appaloosa "Cuz that's the kind of horse an Indian should ride!". And of course she had to ride bareback and barefoot because "the Indians didn't have fancy shoes and saddles way back then!"

The Hunter costume was pretty easy and since it just happened to be opening weekend of pheasant hunting, he got to tag along with the big boys and learn all about it. I think they spent more time snacking and driving then actually doing any hunting!

We completed the night with about 5 trick-or-treating stops and the kids were ready to crash... which is always a sign of the end to a GREAT day!